A Book In Every Home - by Edward Leedskalnin (c)1936

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"A BOOK IN EVERY HOME
Containing Three Subjects:
Ed's Sweet Sixteen,
Domestic and
Political Views

By EDWARD LEEDSKALNIN
Published by EDWARD LEEDSKALNIN
Homestead, Florida

COPYRIGHT, 1936,
By Edward Leedskalnin

AUTHOR'S PREFACE
Reader, if for any reason you don not like the things I say in this
little book, I left just as much space as I used, so you can write
your own opinion opposite it and see if you can do better.
The Author

ED'S SWEET SIXTEEN
To those more than fifteen thousand people who have seen Ed's Place,
I told about Ed's Sweet Sixteen. Now, I will tell you why I did not
get the girl.
In Ed's Place, there was a lasting fame for a girl's name but it
would have taken money to put the fame upon her. The trouble was
that I did not have the money and didn't make enough. That was the
reason I could not look for a girl.
Now, I am going to tell you what I mean when I say "Ed's Sweet
Sixteen". I don't mean a sixteen year old girl, I mean a brand new
one. If it had meant a sixteen year old girl, it would have meant at
the same time, that I made money for the sweet sixteen while she was
making love with a fresh boy.
I will furnish all the love making to my girl. She will never have
to seek any from anybody else, for I believe that there is not a boy
or man in this world good enough to be around my girl and I believe
that the other men also ought to have enough self-respect so that
they would think that I am not good enough to be around theirs.
Anything that we do leaves its effect, but it leaves more effect
upon a girl than it does upon a boy or a man, because the girl's
body, mind and all her constitution is more tender and so it leaves
more impressions - and why should one want to be around anybody's
else impressions?
A girl is to a fellow the best thing in this world, but to have
the best one second hand, it is humiliating.
All girls below sixteen should be brand new. If a girl below
sixteen cannot be called brand new any more, it is not the girl's
fault; the mamma is to blame! It is the mamma's duty to supervise
the girl to keep those fresh boys away.
In case the girl's mamma thinks that there is a boy somewhere who
needs experience, then she, herself, could pose as an experimental
station for that fresh boy to practice on and so save the girl.
Nothing can hurt her any more. She has already gone through all the
experience that can be gone through and so in her case, it would be
all right.
But all the blame does not rest on the mamma alone. The schools
and the churches are cheapening the girls! They are arranging
picnics - are coupling up the girls with the fresh boys - and then
they send them out to the woods, parks, beaches and other places so
that they can practice in first degree love making.
Now, I will tell you what the first degree love making is. The
first degree love making is when the fresh boy begins to soil the
girl by patting, rubbing and squeezing her. They start it in that
way but soon it begins to get dull and there is no kick in it, so
they have to start in on the second degree and keep on and then by
and by, when the right man comes along and when he touches the girl,
then he touches her like dead flesh. There is no more response in it
because all the response has been worked out with those fresh boys.
Why should it be that way?
Everything we do should be for some good purpose but as everybody
knows there is nothing good that can come to a girl from a fresh
boy. When a girl is sixteen or seventeen years old, she is as good
as she ever will be, but when a boy is sixteen years old, he is then
fresher than in all his stages of development. He is then not big
enough to work but he is too big to be kept in a nursery and then to
allow such a fresh thing to soil a girl - it could not work on my
girl. Now I will tell you about soiling. Anything that is done, if
it is with the right party it is all right, but when it is with the
wrong party, it is soiling, and concerning those fresh boys with the
girls, it is wrong every time.
Now, how can you find out if I am right? Pick out any girl you
want but do it before she has anything to do with anybody - as soon
as she begins to couple herself with somebody. You watch her every
day and some day you will see the girl coming home with a red face.
One's face is a window for other people to look in on and when it
turns red it shows that there was something done that her moral
conscience told her should not have been done.
It is shocking to imagine that someone else produced that red face
to my girl. In such a case she could not be one hundred per cent
sweet. As soon as a girl acquires experience the sweetness begins to
leave her right away. The first experience in everything is the most
impressive. It should be reserved for the permanent partner - the
less of the new experience is left, the cheaper the affair will be.
That is the reason why I want a girl the way Mother nature puts
her out. This means before anybody has had any chance to be around
her and before she begins to misrepresent herself. I want to pick
out the girl while she is guided by the instinct alone.
When I started out in doing things that would make it possible for
me to get a girl, I set a rule in my behaviour to follow:
The sweet sixteen had to be a beginner and a likeable girl and
with a mild disposition; I had to be deserving of her. Everybody's
sweet sixteen should be so high in one's estimation that no
temptation could induce one to act behind her back. I always have
wanted a girl but I never had one. The reason why is that I knew it
would produce several conditions and leave their effects, but I did
not want any effects from past experience left on me and my sweet
sixteen.
A girl will economize, go hungry and endure other hardships before
she will put on another girl's dress to wear. I will put gunny sacks
on before I will wear another man's clothes, and this is only a step
from having another fellow's girl or another girl's fellow.
Having such a case the present possessor would have to clean up
the past performer's effects. Now you see, to clean up the other
person's leavings, it is humiliating, so it would be a cheap and
undesirable affair. I want one hundred per cent good or none. That
is why I was so successfull in resisting the natural urge for love
making.
Now about sweet and how sweet, a girl can be one hundred per cent
sweet to one only and no more. To illustrate, suppose we are two men
and a girl together somewhere and some one else would ask if she is
sweet and we both would say she is sweet. But let her act very
friendly with the other fellow and then if someone should ask if she
is sweet, I would say that she is not. Now you see her friendly
action with the other fellow produced a change in me and it would
produce a change in any other normal man.
We always strive for perfection. We are only one-half of a perfect
whole, man is the bigger and stronger half and the woman is the
other. To be perfect there must be two, but where there is two there
is no room for more, so the third party is left to go somewhere else
with sour feelings.
A normal male is always ready to strive for perfection, the female
is not. It is not only with human beings, it is the same with every
living thing. If you watch a flock of chickens, where there is a
rooster, and if you add another rooster, you will see them fight to
death. One will have to go or be killed and this is the same thing
with the other living things.
Lower forms of life are guided by instincts alone so the present
only comes into consideration. As soon as the other male is chased
away, the female is as good as she ever was, but with us it is
different. We are guided more by reason and thought than by instinct
and so the present, past and future come into consideration. Now, if
it is not good today, it was not good yesterday and it won't be good
tomorrow. That is why an experienced girl cannot be one hundred per
cent sweet.
According to my observation the girls are wrong in looking for
their permanent partners. They are too quick. By being too quick,
they only get those fellows with quick emotions. All quick emotions
are irresponsible and short lasting.
There are two kinds of love - sensual and sentimental. Sensual
love has the present and little future only. The sentimental love
has the present, past and future, so it is more desirable. It will
be slower but it will last longer. Now, girls, when any fellow jumps
quickly at you, you had better keep away from him. He has no
consideration that the action would do any good to you. You are the
weakest side, so you should have the better deal and if you don't
get the better deal, there is a little brute in him and it may come
very hard to train it out of him. The fellow who makes an advance
toward you, and if he won't state what the eventual purpose will be,
he is not a gentleman. All men should know that the girl's primary
purpose is to find a permanent partner while they are young. Those
fellows who fail to see this are not desirable to have around.
Girls below sixteen should not be allowed to associate with the
boys, they are practicing in love making, such a thing should be
discouraged. Love making should be reserved for their permanent
partners. With every love making affair, their hearts get bruised
and by the time they grow up, their hearts are so badly bruised that
they are no more good.
Boys and girls start out as friends and finish as disappointed
lovers, now let me tell you. Male and female are never friends, a
friend will not want anything from a friend, but a boy or a girl,
one or the other, sooner or later, will ask for a little kiss, so
they are not friends, they are lovers.
Let's see what happens when they are selecting their partners
while they are young. They select their partners on account of good
looks. The liking for the good looks remain but the good looks
change and they change so much in ten years that you would not
recognize them if you had not seen them now and then - and the boy
gets the best deal almost every time. By that time they are grown
up. The girls will be faded so much that the fellow would not want
her any more so then, any girl who associates with a fellow only
five years older is headed for a bad disappointment. This all could
be avoided with the right kind of an education.
Now, a few words about education. You know we receive an education
in the schools from books. All those books that people became
educated from twenty-five years ago, are wrong now, and those that
are good now, will be wrong again twenty-five years from now. So if
they are wrong then, they are also wrong now, and the one who is
educated from the wrong books is not educated, he is misled. All
books that are written are wrong, the one who is not educated cannot
write a book and the one who is educated, is not really educated but
he is misled and the one who is misled cannot write a book which is
correct.
The misleading began when our far distant ancestors began to teach
their descendants. You know they knew nothing but they passed their
knowledge of nothing to the coming generations and it went so
innocently that nobody noticed it. That is why we are not educated.
Now I will tel you what education is according to my reasoning. An
educated person is one whose senses are refined. We are born as
brutes, we remain and die as the same if we do not become polished.
Some are too coarse to take it. The main base of education is one's
"self-respect". Any one lacking self-respect cannot be educated. The
main bases of self-respect is the willingness to learn, to do only
the things that are good and right, to believe only in the things
that can be proved, to possess appreciation and self control.
Now, if you lack willingness to learn, you will remain as a brute
and if you do things that are not good and right, you will be a low
person, and if you believe in things that cannot be proved, any
feeble minded person can lead you, and if you lack appreciation, it
takes away the incentive for good doing and if you lack self control
you will never know the limit.
So all those lacking these characteristics in their makeup are not
educated.

DOMESTIC
The foundation of our physical and mental behaviour is laid while we
are in infancy, so the responsibility of our shortcomings rest upon
our mothers and fathers, but mainly upon our mothers.
Today, I myself would be better than I am if my mother and father
had known how to raise me and the same is true for almost everybody
else.
At the first contraction in any part of your body, you will never
notice any mark, but keep it up and some day you will see a crease,
and it will be permanent. We all want to look and act the best that
we know how, but we cannot learn from ourselves so we have to learn
from others.
In my thirty years of studying conditions and their effects I have
come to the conclusion that I can tell pointers to the people that
would be a good help to them. That is why I wrote this little book.
To accomplish good results, the mothers will have to keep good
watch on their darlings until they acquire the natural ambition to
shine, and the girls should be more carefully watched than the boys,
because the girl's looks are her best asset and should be
cultivated.
Don't raise the girls too big by over feeding them and too curved
by neglect.
People who want to shine will always have to restrain themselves,
because if they don't, their actions won't be graceful. Even when
one's looks are good, if he abandons restraint, the performance
won't be good. It is more likely that the person himself won't
notice but others will.
The first thing I notice about other people is, if there is
something wrong and if it could be improved and the same must be
true about other people noticing my defects and neglects. To correct
those neglects, somebody will have to point them out, but to do it
directly will not do, because they would think you are mean. That is
why I want to point out the defects and neglects in this book.
The most striking neglect that comes to my attention is when one
is smiling. A smile is always pleasing if it is regulated but
without restraint, it is not. When smiling, the teeth only should be
shown. As soon as you show the gums, it spoils the good effect. When
showing the gums you are doing triple harm. First, the gums never
look good; second, you are making too big creases in the side of
your mouth and third, your lips come too wide apart. Especially
should a girl be careful not to show too abnormally big mouth. Girls
should do nothing that would impair their best looks. I have seen
moving picture stars, public singers and others with their mouths
open so wide that you would think the person lacks refinement, but
if they knew how bad it looks they would train it out. No doubt they
have practiced before a looking glass, but a looking glass does not
show such an enormous opening, because while they are looking at the
looking glass they are under restraint and so they really don't know
how it looks while they are not watching themselves. In a looking
glass you will never notice all your neglects and defects. They have
to be pointed out by somebody else.
It is painful to hear other people pointing out our neglects and
defects so do not entrust your friends to do it. Your friends may
not always be your friends. The best way is to leave that to your
own family. Your mother and father will do nothing to embarrass you.
Your mother will do it better and it should be started while one is
still a baby.
The first thing the mothers should do is to watch the baby's mouth
so it is not hanging open. The mouth, by hanging open, stretches the
upper lip and when kept open while growing, then when fully grown,
the lips will not fit together any more.
Mothers should keep close watch on their children's behaviour. As
soon as they notice some action and contraction that is not
graceful, they should correct it immediately, because their actions
leave their effects. To small children, it doesn't matter how ugly
they look, but when they are grown up, the good looks will be the
best thing, and one with a disfigured face cannot be satisfied with
oneself. The foundation for one's best looks will have to be laid
while one is small.
A graceful smile is pleasing but if it is not perfect, its
pleasing effect is marred. To obtain better results, don't make the
smile too big by opening the mouth too wide, drawing the lips over
the gums, or drawing one side of the lip more than the other, or
drawing both lips to one side and have them twisted.
Children should not be encouraged to smile too much, smiling in
due time will produce creases in the sides of their mouths. It would
be better to save the smiles till they are grown up. Children while
they are growing should be watched, closely. They are stretching
their mouths with their fingers and are jamming too big objects in
their mouths and making ugly faces. All these actions should be
forbidden for their future's sake.
Eyes should be trained to look in the middle between both lids,
never through the forehead. If this is done, it will produce creases
in the forehead. When the lids of one eye are more narrow than the
other it should be trained out and equalized.
In case one leg is shorter and one shoulder lower, they can be
disguised so that other people would not notice it. In walking the
toes should be carried a little out, by carrying the toes out one
can walk better. Shorter steps would make the walking more graceful
and those who stoop over, higher heels would help to keep the body
more erect.
Girls should take smaller steps than boys. By taking smaller steps
the body would not jump as much up and down or swing from side to
side.
Mothers should study the other people's children and then pick out
the best model from which to train their own child.
Everybody should be trained not to go out anywhere before somebody
else has examined them to see if everything is all right. It would
save many people from unexpected embarrassment.

POLITICAL
Before I say anything about the government, let's establish a base
for reasoning. All our ideas should produce good and lasting results
and then anything that is good now would have been good in the past
and it will be good in the future and it will be good under any
circumstances, so any idea that does not cover all this broad base
is no good.
To be right, one's thought will have to be based on natural facts,
for really, Mother Nature only can what is right and what is wrong
and the way that things should be.
My definition of right is that right is anything in nature that
exists without artificial modification and all the others are wrong.
Now suppose you would say it is wrong. In that case, I would say
you are wrong yourself because you came into this world through
natural circumstances that you had nothing to do with and so long as
such a thing exists as yourself, I am right and you are wrong. Only
those are right whose thoughts are based on natural facts and
inclinations.
It is natural tendency for all living things to take it easy. You
watch any living thing you want to, and you will see that as soon as
they fill up, they will lie down and take it easy.
The physical comfort, the ease, that is the only thing in this
world that satisfies. It cannot be overdone and it is the real base
of all our actions. We all cannot take things easy because there is
too much competition from other people only those who possess good
management will succeed by exploiting domestic animals, machinery,
other people and natural resources.
Everything will have to be produced that is consumed and to those
who have to produce the things themselves, they are consuming the
easy days are not coming to them.
It has been told to you that the government is for the purpose of
protecting "life" and property, but it really is to protect
"property" and life. Nobody wants your life but everybody wants your
property.
In International dealings, when an army conquers the land, they
don't want the people, they want the physical property and so do the
thieves and the bandits. They want your money and property and if
you will submit peacefully, they won't harm you.
Now you see, nobody wants you, they want your property so really
the property is the one that needs the protection and not you. You
are the protector yourself.
Government to be lasting will have to be just. This means it will
have to protect all the property alike and all the property will
have to pay equal taxes, which means big property, big taxes, and
small property, small taxes. Government cannot exist without taxes
so only those who pay taxes should vote and vote according to the
taxes they pay.
It is not sound to allow the weaklings to vote. Any one who is too
weak to make his own living is not strong enough to vote, because
their weak influence weakens the state and a degenerated state
cannot exist very long, but every state should be sound and lasting.
By voting, the voters dictate the state's destiny for times to
come and then to allow such a weak influence to guide the state, it
is not wise and so you see one should vote according to how he is
carrying the State's burden.
Another unwise thing about equal voting is that it gives the
loafers and weaklings the power to take the property away from
producers and stronger people, and then another unjust thing about
equal voting is that it gives the loafers and weaklings the power to
demand an easy life from the producers and leaders.
Self respecting producers will not stand such an injustice for
long. It is not the producers' fault when one is too weak to make
his own living. The producer's life is just as sweet as the
weaklings and loafers life is to them. All people are independent so
you see everybody will have to take care of themselves and if they
cannot, they should perish and the sooner they perish the better it
will be.
To be lasting, the government should be built in the same way as
the Supreme power of the land "the army." Governments have been
rising and falling but the army always remains. You know there is no
equality in army and so there can be no equality in the state if you
are not equal producer you cannot be an equal consumer.
Fifty per cent of the people don't want to lead, they want to
follow. They want somebody else to furnish the money for their
living expenses and as long as such a condition exists, they are not
equal with their leaders. That is the reason why everybody should be
put in the right place according to their physical and mental
ability.
There is only one way to share the National income. It is by
sharing the production and if you are not producing equally you
cannot share equally. Nobody is producing anything for the others.
They are producing only for themselves.
People are individuals. For instance, if you want an excitement
you have to test the thrill yourself, or if you have a pain you will
have to bear it yourself, or if you want to eat you will have to eat
for yourself. Nobody can eat for you and so it is that if you want
the things to eat you will have to produce them yourself and if you
are too weak, too lazy, lack machinery and good management to
produce them, you should perish and that is all there is to it."
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